SELF-IDENTITY & SELF-CONCEPT
SELF IDENTITY, self-concept, & SELF-AWARENESS
You're identity is not solely based on your sex, your size, your clothes, your grades, your looks, your hair, your house, your family, your money, your opinions or any other myriad of things which society constantly uses to place us in a 'box'.
In a world where it seems we are constantly asked to 'pick a side', it can be confusing and overwhelming to know where we stand on a topic, what our values are, what we want to do in life, who are our true friends, what will our future look like and what is our purpose. In all of this, the question can be easily wrapped up in 'who am I'?
What seems like such a simple questio can sometimes bring us to tears. Especially as from one week to the next, sometimes even one day to the next, we can feel like different people.
One day we are happy with our bodies, the next day we hate it. Yesterday I felt full of confidence, today I feel like a failure. Last week I had hope for what I will do when I leave school/change jobs/finish uni, now I feel as I have no options. This is normal. The ups and downs, the emotions, the feelings (or sometimes lack thereof), the constant thoughts can be unsettling at the best, soul destroying at the worst.
But it's not all doom and gloom. The joy of being young is that it is OK to have these ups and downs. It's ok to not have all the answers, to not know what your future holds, to not know where you stand on a subject. It truly is ok. It is in undestanding this, accepting it, and working through what is important to you to understand, and what you are happy to shrug off as 'not important enough to worry about'.
As we talk together, you will start to see what is important to you, why it is important, what your own personal opinions are and why you make the decisions you do. Doing this will help you form a clear picture of who you are. Once you know who you are, what is important to you, what your values are and why you are so significant you will be happier, more confident and have a sense of freedom which you've likely never known.